So you’ve read the Paper Pusher’s Prescription for Self Hate? It was a blog where I discussed the importance of daily random acts of kindness done in secrecy without recognition to develop self-love?
Perhaps you’ve been participating in such acts in addition to hanging up post-it notes with positive assertions all over your walls yet you’re still struggling? No matter what you do… you still hear “your ugly.” “You look fat in what you’re wearing.” “No one loves you or wants you. Something must be wrong with you!”
You might sit at your desk at work and make some error and a voice inside your head sounds off “you idiot! You stupid idiot!” How on earth did you do that?!”
It’s terrible and sad to imagine that someone could be internalizing that verbal negative abuse, but I believe is common and the cause is not always known. Perhaps some people just consider it negative self talk, maybe sometimes that’s the case; however, in my own “personal opinion” Â as a believer in God, Jesus, heaven, hell – I associate that negative self talk as the prescience of the enemy. Although that might seem ridiculous to a non-believer, (understandable) – please at least hear me out on a suggestion to effectively deal with it.
I believe as Â a “believer” we are often subjected to spiritual attacks by demons. Quite honestly, in an attempt to not get to detailed or deep into this and scare off non-believers I will just say that the negative self talk is the product of the devil’s lies and he wants to make you feel worthless, low, and insecure in an attempt to deter you from the purpose God has for you.
John 10:10 KJV
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”
James 4:7 KJV
“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the Devil and he will flee from you.”
I once went through a period of extreme self hatred and through building a relationship with the Lord, I became aware of the Devil’s schemes and lies and developed the following method I use to respond to negative self-talk that I like to call:
Here’s how it works:
When you hear a negative voice about yourself you must react with a positive affirmation. This is harder then it seems when you feel poorly of yourself or possess self hate.
Reminiscing back, there was a point in my life when I recall sitting in front of a mirror trying to recite positive words about myself and I was internally struggling and gritting Â my teeth. Fighting to get the words to come out. It was an intense struggle because I truly couldnt identify with anything remotely positive about myself.
Despite the fact that this may be a challenge, it’s imperative that you internalize a positive comeback, even if you have to giggle inside as you process it, you need to do it anyway. Whether or not youÂ actually believe the statement is irrelevant, you must provide a counter comeback against the negative voice with a positiveÂ statement.
Negative – you dropped a fork on the floor and the first thing you internally hear is:
“Stupid! What you can’t hold a fork right?”
“You are brilliant and intelligent and dropping a fork doesn’t affect your intellect” ( if you’re a believer – (add) the Devil is a lie!
Through my own personal experience in doing this practice, I noticed less and less of the negative talk over time. Resist the Devil and he will flee from you.
“I’m sending you an abundance of virtual love and positive energy. You are brilliant, valuable, a masterpiece & work of art. You deserve peace, happiness and all the beautiful things life can offer. You are worth it!”